It's challenging enough to figure out what you want in a romantic relationship, let alone finding it once you do. Finding someone who shares your ideas on sex and sexuality might be even more difficult at times. If finding a sex-positive partner is crucial to you, you may take a few extra measures when assessing possible partners to guarantee you get exactly what you want and need right away.

Sex-positivity is a worldview that recognizes the spectrum of sexual variation among persons, rather than your own personal conception of sexuality.

According to them, this encompasses sexual orientation, gender identity/expression, as well as sex and relationship behaviors. It also promotes open communication, consent, ethics, and risk awareness, with the main goal of promoting sexual minorities' empowerment and emancipation.

Because this notion of sex positivity is frequently misrepresented or misunderstood, many people (especially cis guys) out there on dating apps with "sex-positive" in their profile are truly unsure what the phrase means.

It's someone who is fantastic at speaking about sex and setting limits, only to be disappointed when I learn it's merely a word they heard on a podcast that makes them sound hip and like 'that stuff from 50 Shades of Grey.' 

So, how can you tell whether someone is sex positive, and how can you express this to them? There are a few things you can do to increase your confidence that you and someone else are on the same page.

Because the phrase "sex-positive" is unclear, it's vital to explain more than simply that you're "sex-positive." There are a few things you may do or search for in a profile to indicate that you are a sex-positive potential mate. These would be the subjects you could bring up if you met and talked about it in person.

So, how can you tell whether someone is sex positive, and how can you express this to them? There are a few things you can do to increase your confidence that you and someone else are on the same page.

Because the phrase "sex-positive" is unclear, it's vital to explain more than simply that you're "sex-positive." There are a few things you may do or search for in a profile to indicate that you are a sex-positive potential mate. These would be the subjects you could bring up if you met and talked about it in person.

However, if meeting individuals in person is how you want to go about things, that's OK, too. Attending seminars at local sex stores is one method to be in an environment where people are already having sexual conversations. It might be an excellent location to meet others who share your interests.

Finally, communication is crucial! The more honest you are about your requirements and limitations, the more likely you are to find what you want. Remember that starting at your own speed is always the best way to go. If you look at our book “The Erotic Journey of the Seven Graduates” where all seven of them in some way or the other are in a hunt to find their best sex partner. So what’s stopping you?